Question: I've been hanging out with this guy...

I've been in this situation before. Every conversation somehow turns to sex, which can be fun, but when something serious happens, he still wants to joke about sex. It's not right. Took me quite a while to figure out that he had no other intentions but sex (he never would admit it.) When I got smart and turned it around and let him know that I only wanted him for sex, he said finally you get it. No, finally I don't need you..and you don't need him either. It's only trouble down that road.

From my experience if youre asking is this a red flag the chances are it probably is. I was in this situation about 6 months ago, the guy I was texting/phoning knew I was having a bad time, one time I was in floods of tears but he still turned the conversation back to something sexual, despite me telling him on several occasions that I wasnt comfortable with what he was doing. In the end I gave him an ultimatum and said he wasnt being fair, either he was interested or he wasnt and if he wasnt he was to leave me alone and stop texting me, it was at this point he admitted he was only in it for a quick thrill and had no intention of carrying it on any further than that. He stopped texting for a couple of weeks but was soon back with his sexy chat etc still ignoring what I'd asked not to do. In the end I just made sure my replies were as boring as possible and he soon gave up.
Personally I,d tell him that his sex chat makes you feel uncomfortable, its not what you want and see how he reacts, you,ll soon get the answer.

I dated this one guy, who I told I wouldn't have sex with him. And our conversations always went back to sex, we would talk about my future career and he would find some way to make it sexual. Even going on dates we would end up back at his place and him trying something. I eneded thing quick. I didn't like the situation I was in at all.

You really have to ask yourself if this is the type of relationship you want. I wanted more out of mine. I wanted everything from the sexual aspect to the deep intellectual side.

Depending on when you want to finally sleep with him (dating 6 months, engagement, wedding, etc), I think you should have a heart-to-heart with him so that the air is clear. You know what his intentions are and he knows what yours are. If he keeps pressuring it, or he brings it up 2/3 of the conversations you have and you're not comfortable with the idea, then you might want to kick him to the curb. However, speaking personally, I remember when this happened with me and my ex and pretty soon all that was holding us together was the chemistry and it wasn't enough. Just make sure you know the guy before doing something you regret and also preventing yourself from a heartache. I hope this helped. :)