Question: Hi girls. I've been struggling with self...

I would try and find something that you have a natural talent for and develop it. Honestly even when I've been a huge fatty I've been able to hook a hottie or two simply based on a few overwhelming talents giving me the confidence I needed. If you see a REALLY good looking guy with a girl that obese the chances are pretty high she has some amazing talent(s) he just can't get enough of.

Hope this helps!

I would try and find something that you have a natural talent for and develop it. Honestly even when I've been a huge fatty I've been able to hook a hottie or two simply based on a few overwhelming talents giving me the confidence I needed. If you see a REALLY good looking guy with a girl that obese the chances are pretty high she has some amazing talent(s) he just can't get enough of.

Hope this helps!

I would try and find something that you have a natural talent for and develop it. Honestly even when I've been a huge fatty I've been able to hook a hottie or two simply based on a few overwhelming talents giving me the confidence I needed. If you see a REALLY good looking guy with a girl that obese the chances are pretty high she has some amazing talent(s) he just can't get enough of.

Hope this helps!

My friend is just like that. Shes definitly not small, and neither am I. I hate myself through and through, and she just doesnt give a crap about it. Shes so confident and knows damn well who she is. shes my hero and role model.

my friend had a very big weight problem and use to work out to try to slim down but she never really got anywhere, but to me i never saw her as fat because she was so confident about herself. one day she had been dumped by her boyfriend and she let her confidence slip for just a sec, from that day on ive relized confidence is just how you act. if you act confident even if ur a wimp like me, people will believe u r confident and then you will believe it too. i never saw my friend as fat i saw her as how i wanted to be. for people who know they look "perfect" they just have an easier time being confident cuz everyone believes they already are.

I will try that. Thank you so much for your help!

A lot, a lot of pep talks with yourself. You know how people say that when you smile even if you're not happy, suddenly you start to feel a little happier simply because you're faking being happy? Well, doing these pep talks are the same sort of thing. Any time you have these thoughts that put you down, you fight back against them and you have to say, 'No, you--little mean voice in my head--you shut the hell up, because I do rock and you have no idea what you're talking about. I rock, and I am beautiful, and today is an amazing day, and I am awesome.' Least that's what I do whenever it happens to me, and I know exactly how you feel. I have been a tom boy since the third grade and I'm actually still really uncomfortable in certain clothing, like skirts--though I really like dresses even though I don't wear or own many of them--so I still wear pants and there are times when I feel like I look like a kid though I'm 20 years old. It makes me feel out of the loop and childish when I compare myself with other women, but I think that's also the other problem. Most women compare themselves to other women. If you do that a lot, then I suggest you tone it down a bit. I mean, when I entered college, there were a lot of girls I saw where I thought 'God, I wish I could look like that' or 'I wish I could wear those clothes' or stuff like that and for a while I felt bad about myself. But then I changed my wardrobe a little bit, replaced some blacks with some brighter colors, though my clothes are still predominately black or dark shades and I forced myself to wear them and learn to be comfortable in them and I stopped comparing myself to every girl out there and instead started thinking, well, they can pull that look off, but they can't pull my look off. I'm one of a kind.

It's only been a year since I started to raise my confidence and for me it is still a struggle, but it's something that you can't give up on. I suggest trying something new, either something that you wanted to try or something you dread trying, because when you get out of your element, yes, it will be a little uncomfortable, but you might also get reactions from people that you never would have gotten before and they could be the desired reaction. Or even just do something different just to say that you have done it and that you have experienced something different, you have more knowledge so you're smarter, and the very fact that you decided to wear a dress and heels and try out being really feminine for a day and how it made you feel opened your eyes to something whether it's that you much prefer pants and a t-shirt to heels and a skirt or you actually kinda like how you felt in them so you might wear them more often or you absolutely hate it and will don't do it for special occasions like weddings or something like that. In order to gain confidence, I think you have to do things that you would be proud of and you need to have the courage to try out new things that you might be too scared to do and facing that fear will make you glow with pride because you finally did it.

It's a process and finding your own confidence and learning to love yourself for who you are are two things that sometimes collide, but if you learn to love yourself and appreciate what you have and strive to be a better version of yourself, then sometimes confidence comes with the package.

Good luck. You'll to amazingly, I'm sure. ^-^