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Question: Hey I need some advice. I met...

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Posted by Anonymous on July 21, 2011 at 3:59 PM

Hey I need some advice. I met a guy who seemed to really like me, and vice versa. However, over the past week or so, he has been acting kind of strange. In essence, he isn't answering my texts or calls much at all. He is in the military and leaves on deployment in two days... he will be gone for two years. Do I keep his number? Do I move on? Why isn't he answering me? Help!

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  • Posted by Anonymous on July 22, 2011 at 10:23 AM
Deployment sucks for a lot of people. He might be distant because he doesn't to get hurt while he's gone. It might just be easier for him to disconnect. If you can separate yourself emotionally, I'd say keep his number... send him a message saying you're there for him and are proud of him and leave the ball in his court. If you're not dating... don't sit around and wait for him to decide to love you, but being a friend to someone in that situation is a great thing to do.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on July 21, 2011 at 9:11 PM
Alright. Thanks! :)
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  • Posted by Anonymous on July 21, 2011 at 6:21 PM
I agree completely with the writer above. I always keep numbers so that I know who is contacting me in the future. Also about dating someone in the military. Everyone with that kind of job will react to deploying differently. If you haven't known this guy long, you may not know how he is dealing with the reality that he will be gone for a couple of years. Provided that the two of you haven't discussed where you stand before his leaving, it's safe to say that you should move on. Though it's hard to let undeveloped possibilities slip away, you don't want to waste the next years of your life waiting for a phone call or letting other potential prospects pass you by.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on July 21, 2011 at 4:46 PM
The only reason I keep numbers in my phone is just in case someone from my past decides to call or text me, then I'd know who it was and have the option of ignoring them instead of texting back saying who is this.
As far as the guy goes, military people are tough to date and even be friends with depending on who they are. Some close off all their relationships with others when they go away, others can manage to keep relationships going. I say move on, if its meant to be then maybe he will come back in your life at some point, but you don't want to be sitting by the phone waiting while life passes you by.
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  • Posted by Anonymous on July 21, 2011 at 4:21 PM
Move on. life is too short to wonder what might have been! I know that is harsh, but he'll be gone for 2 years, and you have known him for what...a week? why does your life have to be put on hold for some guy who can't even respond to you? he isn't all 'that' and he obviously thinks he is! kick him to the mental curve, and go get your groove on!
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