Question: All my life I have had the...

In my opinion, I think it is really important to talk about in the beginning of a relationship, before things start getting intimate, is to tell the person that you are with about what kind of person you are, what you expect, and what your future outlook will hopefully look like. You can learn so much about a person on the first date! It is also important to know that not all guys have the same things in mind like you may have. Some will say or do anything to "score". Yes, they will even tell you they have plans on marrying you, but they are "only human" and "need their needs taken care of". Well the truth is, we all have needs! the first need is respect. If you have told him and make it perfectly clear that you want to wait until marriage, but he is still pressuring you to have sex, he's a jerk. However, if he has no idea you are waiting for marriage, and you haven't bothered to tell him, how is he supposed to know? Obviously, you have told him. He isn't respecting your boundaries. I discussed this with my husband to get his opinion because he is a guy, and this is his Philosophy as well. Understandably, you may both be excited to see each other, however boundaries need to be respected! reinforced! you are worth much more than this! Why should you have to fight for this your entire relationship? In the end, you may lose, caught up in the heat of passion and not able to take it back. So, if you aren't married, this is what I'd recommend. Date other people! you may find that even though you have strong feelings for this guy, you might also like another guy who will respect your wishes, and this goes much further relationship wise than just virginity, this is about respect! and if a guy can respect the fact you want to remain a virgin until marriage, he will respect you in other aspects of the marriage which will make you happy as well.

I waited until I was engaged before I had sex with my fiance but for your case, if he cannot realize the significance of you wanting to wait til marriage that it is a sensitive case, he does not respect that.

If he really respects you, he does need to know how to back off and that you are saving yourself. Some guys do not realize how, with cases like this, that virginity means a lot to a person and he needs to realize that or he may not hold proper respect for you as a person in this manner or in other ways.

I just want to say good for you!! cause sex is a special thing that should be shared between man and wife. Setting the boundaries is a great idea and I totally agree with the above comment. maybe telling him the boundaries before it is intense would make him understand more. if you can't be yourself with him then you are pinning yourself down. You go girl!

If he respects you, he wouldn't try to push you to do anything you're not comfortable with. Especially when it comes to sex. Really be firm when you set your boundaries, and let him know how it makes you feel when he pressures you for sex. If he doesn't stop then maybe it's time to really think about the man you're with. Good luck!