GirlsGuideTo | Question: So I just need opinions. Almost 2...

So I just need opinions. Almost 2 and a half months ago I got married. My now husband and I were engaged for a year before we got married. So naturally I picked my best friend to be my maid of honor. At first she was really excited about it and we both were naturally, but it seemed the closer and closer that we got to the wedding date the more distant she and I became. I would call or text her and she wouldn't respond and it went on for days. It didn't always deal with wedding stuff it was just in general, I could have called or texted her to see how her day was and she wouldn't respond. It really upset me b/c I just didn't understand what was going on. So I talked to my husband and a few close friends that know both her and I and i asked their opinions about what to do and they told me to just talk to her.

So i tried talking to her to figure out what was going on and the conversation just didn't go well and it strained our friendship even more. I tried explaining to her that she was supposed to be my maid of honor and my best friend and i needed her. I completely understand that people have lives but i was doing all the planning by myself. I told her if she didn't want to do it or felt like it was to much pressure to let me know and i would get someone else to do it and she told me that she wanted to. I thought things were fine after that but the same problem persisted and even got worse. It got to the point that she wasn't showing up to the meetings or fittings, i was still doing all the planning by myself and i just got tired of it so i told her she could still be in the wedding but she was no longer the maid of honor. So I picked someone else to do it. Well at that point she just stopped talking to me all together, whenever I had wedding related things to tell her I would have to have my husband talk to her b/c she wouldn't talk to me about wedding stuff or anything. She stopped talking to all of our friends all together, except my husband.

After having this go on for many months I just told her that I couldn't deal with it anymore, we had a big fight, we haven't talked in like 3 or 4 months, she didn't show up to the wedding, she didn't pay for the rest of her bridesmaids dress. Not only am I upset but I'm hurt. So since she didn't pay for the rest of her dress I had to. We were already in a financial strain with paying for the wedding and reception and then on top of that I had to pay an extra $125 for her dress. So I now have the dress with nothing do to with it.

It upsets me b/c she told me she was having money trouble that's why she hadn't paid for the rest of her dress, but she had enough to buy a brand new iphone! WTF?!

My question is I want my money back but I don't know how to get it. What should I do or what could i do? Friends suggested selling it on craigslist or ebay or something, or just making her pay for it. But obviously if she was going to pay for it, she would have? Right?? At this point I don't want to deal with it or her anymore I just want it to be done and over, so I just don't know what to do.

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Posted by Anonymous on October 17, 2011 at 4:26 PM

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She's not going to pay for it. Sadly, I know several friends that got married, and their bridesmaids either didn't do crap, or didn't come to the wedding and never paid for the dress. Unfortunately, I also have a few friends that even DID this sort of thing to the bride. It's pretty messed up. If it were me, I would keep badgering her to pay for the dress. If that doesn't work... are you close with anyone else in her family, like her mother? If she refuses to pay, ask her mom about it. If that doesn't work, I don't think there's much else you can do. Hope it all works out!