GirlsGuideTo | Question: I've been dating my boyfriend for 3...

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and I love him so much. We're still in college, but I've been planning to marry him (in our future) for a while now, and he's been in agreement! Everything's good right? However, we've recently been fighting a lot and I've gotten some up close views on how badly he fights with his parents.

Everybody says that the way he treats his mom is how he'll treat his wife, and if that's true I don't think I could handle it. Like, it's REALLY bad.

There are so many great things about him that I love, he's the sweetest guy in the world, but sometimes he can get really selfish and be really rude to others and he's so focused on money so that it becomes more important than anything else at times.

I've just been wondering if I should take a break and try to find somebody without these parts to them. I really do love him, but it makes me question everything when he gets like this, and it happens a lot. Help!!

Comments

Posted by Anonymous on July 9, 2012 at 10:21 PM

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well girl, you need to make a balance, because he is not going to change... And if you said he is rude even with his mother, the person who gave him life...is very worrying /:

Posted by Anonymous on July 9, 2012 at 9:24 PM

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In conjunction with what the person above said, how he reacts to you bring up your issues with his behavior is a really good sign of what he's like. I didn't realize one of my exes was really mean and abusive until one day I mentioned that something he said sounded mean and he went off on me.

If he responds to your worries calmly and is willing to work things out then that's a good sign. If he gets angry though...then that's not so good.

Posted by Anonymous on July 9, 2012 at 8:19 PM

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Have you addressed him on these issues you have with his behavior? If you love him and still want to continue your relationship i would suggest you two get to the bottom of his behavior, like possible counseling. That way if you do deem the relationship over you know you tried your best. There is a reason your red flags are coming up and these behaviors of his arent healthy.