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Hi Ladies, I have a problem.

I have been with my current boyfreind for 2 year and I do love him. He's even started talking about marriage. We get on well and can communicate, it's the best relationship I could hope for. But my problem involves another man.

Before I met my current boyfreind I had a string of one night stands, and enjoyed my single life immensly. But there was one guy I really liked and he and I had a flirtation going on, but nothign ever came of it. I just assumed he never felt the same until one night we went on a date. It seemed to go well, we even went back to his place. But after he had some performance issues, and we didn't go out again. I just let it go, assuming he wasn't interested or maybe was embarrassed, I did talk to him but there was never any indication that we would go for a second date.

It was a few months later I met my now boyfeind and have been very happy with him, but I still have thoughts about the other guy, and wonder what could have been. I still also feel attracted to him as well as my bf. But I can't help but wonder if its just that I don't know what could have been or if there was something real between us. I feel like I'm betraying my bf thinking like this and I no longer talk to him. I'm not sure if its just a crush, since these feelings have been there since I first met the guy.

Thanks for listening. If any one has some advice I'd love to hear it.

Comments

Posted by Anonymous on June 25, 2012 at 1:54 PM

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Hey hun,
Honestly I can relate, but believe me those feelings you might have for that person are nothing compared to that what you have with your man.
Here's the thing if he was the one, he would have taken action instead of being MIA for a while.
In the end, I'm happy with who I have, I haven't been happier, and there is no way I would ever let what I have go for something else.
Because think of this. If you do let what you have go and try things out with this other guy, you don't know if it's going to last, guys start to act totally different once they HAVE the girl, what if he turns out to be a complete jerk?

Posted by Anonymous on June 24, 2012 at 9:20 PM

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I think we all get caught up sometimes in the "what if's". I know when my husband and I were first dating, I would have those kinds of thoughts about my ex. They lasted pretty consistently for about a year, even though I really was happy. I never acted on them because I knew my guy was waaay better for me. I guess you need to really weigh your options, staying with your bf or leaving him for this other guy. There's no middle ground unfortunately.