GirlsGuideTo | Question: Hi girls, I really need some help....

Hi girls, I really need some help. I just started dating a new guy and things are going really well, except for one thing. I'm feeling really nervous about moving forward with him physically. The last guy I was with and I had pretty bad chemistry and anything sexual was not just not very great. He even told me that I was bad at going down on him and pleasing him in general. Obviously he was a jerk, but now my confidence in that department is non-existant.

So my question is how do I feel more confident to be more intimate with my new guy? How can I get better at giving blow jobs? I'm feeling so clueless and so scared that if I'm bad, I'll just get dumped again. Please help - anything you can tell me or teach me would really help!

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Posted by Anonymous on August 3, 2012 at 8:06 PM

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Kinda weird, but I actually get good ideas from porn...Yes it may be a bit degrading but the way I see it, those girls are pretty confident and know what they are doing. The Kim K tape is pretty good as far as "going down".

Posted by Katie Ostoich on July 26, 2012 at 8:48 AM

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Posted by Anonymous on July 26, 2012 at 8:34 AM

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I totally agree...I feel so clueless sometimes! I've always thought the best way around my insecurity is to just ask and then fake the confidence until you have it. Each guy is different so they have different ideas of what will turn them on and make them feel good.

Posted by Callie Wyatt on July 25, 2012 at 9:52 PM

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Honestly, don't let your past affect your future. I'm pretty sure what you mentioned above is what I'm worst at/hate the most about relationships. And guess what? When the time comes(that I get a boyfriend, and we progress, blah blah blah) I'm going to ask him what he likes and what feels good. And so long as you're confident and okay with what you're doing, there's no way it CAN'T feel good. P.S your last guy deserves his teeth kicked in for saying stuff like that!

Posted by Anonymous on July 25, 2012 at 7:50 PM

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Ok. What matter most to guys is that YOU enjoy going down on HIM. Guys LOVE enthusiasm. No one gets turned on by someone going down on them and looking like they hate it. Well, maybe soem weird people =P. Anyway, as suggested above, listen to your man. It's his penis, he's going to knwo what he likes. I usually use my togue and swirl it around a bit. Also, most uncut guys will like it if you stroke the shaft, but what i do and I always get complimented for is putting my hand around the shaft, but right up against my lips, stroking his foreskin down as my mouth goes down as well. This simulates sex. squeeze you hand tight when coming up and relax it as you go down.

Good luck!

Posted by Anonymous on July 25, 2012 at 7:25 PM

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Okay, first off, your last guy was a total jerk. Secondly, not everyone is going to be great at giving blow jobs...at first. Your number one teacher should be your guy (since everyone is different and may like it a certain way). If you aren't sure about something, ask him! Yes, it may be embarrassing and all, but in the end it really helps! There are also websites you could go to that give to tips and pointers about pleasing a guy down there. Just remember to stay positive and most of all, enjoy making him feel good! Best of luck to you!