Question: What is the secret to a LDR?...

In college I did a 6 month internship in San Francisco...and I'm from the Midwest. My boyfriend and I made it through and are now married even though that was a really tough time in our lives, for both of us. What I struggled with was the same thing you're going through: feeling like you're missing out at home but experiencing so many new things that you feel bad you aren't sharing with him. And what I know my husband struggled with was feeling left out and worried that I was going to be so different when I came back that I wouldn't want to be with him anymore. The way that we handled it was talking everyday and keeping love first. You are going to change. There's no way around that and you shouldn't limit yourself to the experience just because of your boyfriend. There's no reason not to do anything and everything you want to do. Just make sure you are always reminding him that you love him and you'll be home soon and just because you've done this great thing, doesn't mean you don't love him and you won't want to be together.

As for the communication thing, just keep trying. Try sharing what you're feeling first and then just say "thanks for listening, you've been so supportive. I'd love to hear what you think about that but if you'd like time to think about it, we can talk about it tomorrow." That way he doesn't feel quite as much pressure to respond right away and he has time to process his feelings. And if actual talking is his issue, try emailing or chatting.

I hope that helps. I truly do think that short-term LDRs can work if you work on it. Good luck!

Honesty, you dont...I did a LDR for 2 years, we were engaged and when we moved back together, it was bad. We werent the same people and after 9months of living together afterwards, I left him.

You may have a diiferent story to us, but as much as I believe in soul mates and finding the "one" - I've come to realise you have to know and love yourself first. And it doesnt matter what anyone tells you, you'll still have to follow your own heart - the only consolation if it doesnt work out is that there will be no regrets, no nights laying by yourself wondering "what if". If it does work out, then kudos, you followed your heart and rightly so.

There's no magic answer here, but the answer does lie within youself, listen to your heart and gut feeling - if you think he's the one, then go for it. Dont wake up in 10/15/20years and wonder "what if"

All the best
~K~