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I'm not sure if I should be suspicious of my boyfriend or not. I met him on a dating site, we have been together for 4 months so far, and we have both met each other's families. All is going well. He seems serious about us because he talks about the future and even indicates that he wants this to be long-term and he is loving and caring and considerate to name a few.

However, I noticed the other day that he had put his dating profile back to single. I confronted him about it and he said that he had put in a request to delete it. This dosen"t explain why he put it back to single. He kept saying it must be a bug with the site although he had it put it to not single before this. Mysteriously after it was gone (even though it comes up on google). I did my own investigation with my own old profile and found that the reason it was still coming up on google is because he hid it rather then delete it.

This makes me feel like he's out looking for someone else, even though he is still affectionate and acts serious about this relationship. I mean, if he dosen't want to be with me, I don't understand why he doesn't just break up with me, me confronting him would have been his chance.

Should I be suspicious? What should I do?

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Posted by Anonymous on September 12, 2012 at 8:48 PM

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Confront him again. Take a firm but gentle approach. Start out by telling him that you would like to get out everything you need to say before his response. Make sure you are straight forward about your suspicions, no sugar coating. "I care about you a lot, and I believe that you care about me a lot. But this status change on Facebook has me feeling a little bit uneasy and here is why:" then tell him everything you just told us. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know. And remember not to ignore those "red flag" feelings. They mean something.

Posted by Anonymous on September 12, 2012 at 8:47 PM

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Well, that certainly does seem like suspicious behavior.
He may like you, but wants to keep his options open in case things don't work out. However, The fact that He is lying to you is a BIG red flag. If you can't trust him not to lie to you about a little dating profile, than he isn't a trustworthy person. Whatever you choose to do is up to you, but I personally would not stick around long with someone who lies so easily.