Question: So my boyfriend and I are having...

well he broke up with me because he said his heart wasn't in it anymore and that i was a great girlfriend and everything but his feelings had changed 4 months ago when i was insecure but when i started taking bc it changed me into a whole different person..... it sucks because our one year would've been Tuesday but i just have to get passed this like im too in love with him but i realize you cant force anybody to love you or force them to be with you it hurts because he was still telling me , he loved me and missed me like i haven't talked to him about this and i havent talked to him in 3 days and he hit me up yesterday asking me if i was ok and stuff like that...it hurts bad, but he does have space he lives on college campus he also said it didnt feel like we were in a relationship its his lost thou like you said i wont be dating for a while hopefully one day next year i can find someone who loves me for me because im a great loyal girlfriend.....any advice on how i can move past this quickly, my family and some friends don't make it any better because ive asked them to stop mentioning his name but they still do it......i feel like we could've gotten thru this but i feel like he gave up to easily but now since i stop taking those bc im back to my normal self again =-)

I kind of went through something similar with my boyfriend. And then one day, I stumbled across his facebook, where he had left a message open telling his friend he wasn't sure if he was as romantically interested in me anymore. I was so in love with him (still am) that I couldn't end the relationship then, despite what my best girlfriends advised me to do.

So here's what I did. I started seeing him less. I started doing my own things and when we would see each other, we valued our time together more. By pursuing more of my own hobbies and aspirations, I started building more confidence (I was never insecure before, but once I read that message, I was incredibly insecure about the relationship). That was almost a year ago, and we're still together.

So try new things, pursue your hobbies to help build your independence and confidence will come to. Just keep in mind that you are an incredible woman. And if he isn't as interested in you, it's his loss. But don't settle, just because you think you love him. If it's meant to work, it will, if not, you'll find someone who will love you as much as you love him.

My favorite quote as I was trying to regain my independence was: "Never make someone a priority, when all you are to them is an option." Best of luck!