Question: My best friend Jake just died and...

well i dont know about your beliefs but im a huge believer that when someones body dies they still live on. they have a spirit and that lives on.
if you have a similar belief always remember that ur friend would indeed come around you.
and try and talk out loud to him and ask him to visit you in your dreams that way you know even though you cant see him when you want anymore he is still there.. somewhere. and im sure he's happy

Im sorry for your loss. im dealing with the same thing. In June of this year, my best friend killed himself which came as a shock to everyone. I wont tell you that it gets easier each day(some days it gets worse), or that you will ever get past this completely. He will always be on your heart, and thats a good thing. Ive been struggling with my friends death lately, and i found a website that links you to support groups and awareness walks in your area. On Nov 7th ill be walking to help raise awareness for suicide and suicide prevention. Doing that one simple thing makes me feel just a little bit better, knowing that im walking in his memory. Honestly, ive come to realize, when you tell people that you just lost someone close to you, they truely dont understand or comprehend the emotions you are feeling unless they have had it happen to them. Look for support groups, go online to forums and discussion boards, and dont try to push it out of your mind. let yourself cry, but also allow yourself to laugh and remember the good times. Life does go on, but it only does so when you allow it to.

Well ok ,,, I know it's just a hard thing for you and now your thinkin that you will never ever get over it or be fine again ,,, or maybe in your mind that nothing will help


well hear that ,, I know my story is not the same of yours coz You know I just lost someone ,, I mean he didn't die ,, but I guess it's kinda the same thing coz he's gone ! and suddenly ,, You know I had a hard time beleiving that I'm not gonna talk with him again ,,, I mean even when he's gone I was like didn't accept the fact or my mind didn't accept it yet ,, I was like when something happens to me the first thing I think about is telling him that ,, and then I'll accidently hit the truth to realize that he's not there and her will never be again ,,

so the first step of moving on is to let your mind accept or beleive the fact that he is GONE !!! ,, You just have to beleive it and face the truth ,, realy that helps alot !
and you know what like what some peaple said you should do something to honor him like wear his fav color or somthing

in my situations each time I missed him or something I just Write mnusic for him ,it kinda make you feel that this pain inside you at the momenet is gone after finishing wirtin ,, u know what I mean it's like gettin out what's in your heart and if you're not good at writin you can try writin him a normal letter ,,, and put everything inisde you in it !!! that realy helps alot !!!


sorry for your loss ,,

Let yourself cry, let yourself feel how you're going to feel when you're going to feel it because if you don't it will just drag on. And as much as you miss him and don't want to be unhappy, you have to know in your heart he's out there somewhere watching you and he's happy.As humans it's only normal to feel helpless when you lose someone and alone and want them back so you can see them, talk to them touch them love them etc. But everyone has their day, and i believe that when someone dies it's like what dreams may come (a movie starring robin williams.) Basically you make your own heaven everything you love, you're surrounded by it.October 17th will be two years since my ex commited suicide... I can honestly say i've never hurt like that ever, the day i found out it was like someone took part of me, and i wasn't sure what part but i knew i would never be the same or feel the same or love the same. All i can tell you is time, it's a simple honest answer that no one likes to hear "oh just give it time". It's so annoying but it's the truth you can't rush pain away because if you want the rainbow you gotta put up with the rain.I've lost more people than i can count on both my hands,and i still think about a lot of them every single day, but the pain lessens in time, the memories become comforting instead of painful, the time spent doesn't seem pointless but makes you happy.I hope this makes sense i'm sick so i'm kind of out of it, but what i'm saying is let yourself cry,let yourself hurt, let yourself remember. Let the memories be comforting to you, and think of that person surrounded by all the things they love. Write him if you miss him, that helped me a lot when my ex (joel) died i wrote a whole journal of letters/poems etc. Hope this helps.

Hey Girls, My boyfriend died (coming up 3 years ago) .. and I think the best advice I was given at the time (although I didn't accept it very well) was this:

Grief affects each and every person differently. You may have a group of people all going through the loss of the same person (be it a friend, relative, whoever), each person of that group will deal with the loss differently. I know when my boy died, I was a wreck. It happens. I got severe depression, had to go through medication and councilors (By the way, I found councilors to be in-my-face about the "situation" and preferred to talk to family and friends who were going through it too)... I then went through stages of denial (it's not true, it's not real, you're lying to me) and finally stages of acceptance. I accept that he is gone, but I hold memories in my heart. I too wrote letters. His friends created "memory books" so we could all write a letter or quote or whatever we wanted. His Mum has his books at her house, because that is where he lived. They have kept his room the same. His ashes (in a wooden box) are on his bed. Everything (for me with him) happened in that room. We dated for 2.5 years before he passed away. I miss him every day. Heck sometimes I talk out loud to him, like he is with me now. I have a new boyfriend and it was hard. I had to talk to my new guy about my boyfriend dying. It doesn't just leave you. It changes your life. I would hope for the better. I am not the same girl at 21, as I was at 18 when it happened. My thoughts about life have changed, my goals have changed. I have decided to be stronger and be a better person. I have days where I am so emotional about my grief and loss from his passing, But I also know that I am 21 now, living in a new place, away from my past, with a great new guy. and doing what I want to do (learning how to be a teacher) at university.

I hope my story helps, and just remember that not everyone goes through it the same way. we are individuals.

Dealing with death is one of the hardest things to go through in life. I lost my father about a year and a half ago and I'm still not over it. I don't think I ever will be. My advice is to stay positive. If you believe in God, don't lose faith because right now is not the time to do that. Realize that your friend is in a much better place than we are and that you'll get to see him again in the end.

If you don't believe, then that's okay. Just stay positive and keep in mind that your friend is still in a much better place than we are. It's going to be a hard road from here on out, but you just have to stay strong.

my dad died two years ago i've only just got over it
he was the only person i told my problems and secrets to so i had a hard time because me and my mum never really saw eye to eye i had just moved to a new place and didn't really have any real friend and the worst advice i got was someone told me to just forget about him as if he never existed if someone tells you this they are wrong it doesn't help and they have no right to say this you have the right to feel sad and grieve yes sometimes you will feel like you can't go on but no matter how hard you just have to keep on pushing yes do somthing in the memory of him and think of all the good times you had but no matter what don't think of the bad things it doesn't help to fixate on them think positive take it day by day and if that's too much to handle hour by hour minute by minute it's okay to cry and feel sad and miss him i found it easier when i was missing dad or felt upset to talk to him as if he was there i felt as if even though i couldn't see him he could hear me and it's okay to still talk about your freind i always talk about my dad and you know what he used to like what we used to do together and so on just because he isnt here doesn't mean i can't talk about him some people who havent experience it might say to you when you talk about your freind that he's not there so why talk about him they might even tell you to forget he ever existed but DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM don't you think your friend would like to be rememberedd and always in your happy thoughts? I know that that was what my dad wanted and what i would want if i past away

I lost my best friend Ashley at 18 to leukemia. She died just before graduation ten years ago. I hadn't seen her in person for over a year as she had moved to a city 10 hours away. But we were still very close and planned on moving in together after high school. She hid how bad her condition was from me so I was totally caught off guard when she died. She was the first death of a loved one I ever experienced, and I didn't handle it well. I got really drunk had sex with a guy i barely knew, had the cops called to the house then dropped everything and ran off to work at a Renaissance faire for 10 weeks all within days of her death. I still think of her often and wonder what she would be doing if she were around. What she would look like, if she would have found love, if she would approve of me, if we would still be friends? I haven't had a really close friend since her death. Mostly I wish she could have experienced more of life. She had just barely dipped her toe into adulthood and she was such an awesome person. The world really is missing a gem now, and thinking about her still makes me cry like the day it happened.

Sorry for your loss. I lost my younger and only sister 5 years ago, and it's a lifelong process to deal with. You will have good days and hard days. But you gotta hang in there. Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve or how long it should take. These are things that we can only figure out on our own. *hugs*

I´m so sorry about your friend! Let it out, let your pain be washed away by tears of love and lose. Let your family and friends help you through this moment and always remember him at his best. I´m really sorry you are going through this. I sen you a hug from here