How do I get my roommate away from her ex? Last year they dated and he was nothing but controlling, verbally abusive, and they would always fight and sometimes I would get in the middle. But now that we are back at school she acts like she is going to get back together with him but says she won't. I keep trying to take her out not without him around so maybe she will get some numbers and talk to nice guys but she won't. I am just trying to look out for my friend and myself so I don't have to put up with his crap this year but obviously she doesn't see it that way she just sees it as they are being friends. I need some good advice.