Question: My ex and I broke up nearly...

*i told my boyfriend to take a week space from me to sort out his feelings. i was hopeful that things would work out as he was always telling me that he loved me and had strong feelings for me. but all of a sudden he said that he wanted to be single and had doubts about our future together. i did cry but i did not beg him to stay. i said sorry for any hurt i had caused him and thanked him for showing me love. very hard but i did it with as much dignity as i could. but i never understand why he don't want to stay with me. but before he left he told me i am irresistible, lovely warm person etc but he just want to walk away from my life. the pain was awful. our getting together was fateful and we found out our birthday both 1st June. he is 43 and i am 44. it was weird. i thought we were made for each other. he deleted my numbers but i never let go of him. i wanted him back but he has made up his mind so i had no choice but to look for a way to get him back so what i did was to look for a spell caster to help me get back my lover fast as possible, when i came across greatzuba@gmail.com, so he did a love spell for me and the spell came out perfect, my lover reconciled with me and we came back together and since then we have been in peace and the lover is flowing perfectly*

if you feel like you need to say stuff, make sure you are content with yourself and keep what you say casual. maybe something like "how is your new realationship going?" he will prolly say fine and maybe respond "well we have had some meaningfull times together so i bet you are to." nothing too direct.

thank you ladies for all the advice...I certainly do not want to come across as the 'crazy ex' and as my ex and I are still friends I dont want to do anything to jeopardise that either.
I guess when you heart is involved its hard to look at things objectively, so thank you all for stopping me from making a mistake, and whilst there are still things I need to say I wont do it on our (would be) anniversary...thanks xx

Please don't do that. It's over, the second that relationship ended so should have any recognition of your would-be anniversary. Plus, the other girl will NOT appreciate that at all if she were to find out and to be honest your ex may not appreciate it either. It could put undo strain on his current relationship which would cause him to resent you OR it could make you look desperate/obsessed, etc.
If it's really that important for you to say whatever it is you need to say to him then call him or email him (NOT on the anniversary date) and just ask for him listen. I do believe people deserve closure so they may move on, but pouring your heart out in a card and sending it to your ex on your would-be anniversary is not the right way to do that. And try not to go on the whole "I'm still madly in love with you and I miss you" spiel, because that also sounds desperate and obsessed. Acknowledge that the relationship is over and just explain to him that there are things you wish to say so that you may get closure and move on (that way he knows you aren't trying to beg him to take you back or something). I do hope you get the closure you need and I wish you the best of luck.

i dont think its such a good idea, i agree, with Kate, the new girl will think u're a crazy ex defo... but letting it go will also help u get over him . i noe its pretty hard to move on afta such a long tym together ,but he has a new girl and this goes to show that he's moved on and doesn't need u anymore ..... i suggest u do the same spend more hanging out with your frends it will take ur mind off him and go out more so that u meet new people...and enjoy your newly found single status!

i agree. the girl he's seeing right now may/will take it the wrong way. If you have things to say say it some other time that does not include the anniversary.

the new girl he is seeing might think you are a "crazy ex" if you send a card. back in the fall of 2007 i broke up with my now hubby. The other guy I was dating at the time FLIPPED OUT over a birthday card and flower. He was pissed and hurt and just thought that my husband was a "crazy ex" [clearly that relationship didn't work since I married my hubby but the point is] although the day may still be special to you doesn't mean it's still special to him. As for needing to tell him things so you can move on thats totally different, most people feel that there is things that need to be said, but send him an email, or a letter, but don't have it deal with the anniversary.