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Thu, 17 Nov 2011 09:28:47 -0500

My boyfriend wants me to be more dominant during sex and I don't know how. He says it's not that hard but for me it is. I'm a very self conscious person and I'm just worried that I won't know what to do or how he'll respond. Any advice?

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Fri, 28 Oct 2011 17:48:22 -0400

Okay so I was watching the movie with Anna Farris called "What's your number?" and it got me thinking about "The Number" and just generally why people don't tell each other about their number. So, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I've only ever been with him. But he won't tell me whether or not I really am his first. Half the time I'm positive there have been others and other times, I'm positive I'm his first.
I can't understand why he wouldn't just tell me though. I won't feel any different towards him regardless of whether it's lots or none. And I can't seem to come up with a good reason as to why I care whether or not I'm his first.
When we first started going out, it seemed quite obvious that he had been with others but now I really have no idea.
So, ladies, help? Do I ask him about it again? and why do I want to know so badly?

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Wed, 12 Oct 2011 18:24:44 -0400

I came across this list and asked a few of my guy friends what they thought. They were unanimous that this list is 100% true and something every woman should read. Even my boyfriend agreed! My girlfriends even thanked me because now they know what not to do in bed. A few even admitted to making a few of these themselves. So I thought I'd share it with you ladies but just be warned it's not meant to be taken too seriously.

1. ADMITTING IS THE HARDEST PART - You, yes, you make mistakes in bed... and contrary to what you may believe you're vagina is not so magically wonderful that we don't notice. Oh, we may not SAY anything, but we noticed. The sexual revolution was FIFTY years ago, and the secret is out, WOMEN ENJOY SEX TOO ... so stop acting like it's a favor you're doing for us. A good sex life is part of a healthy relationship. PLEASE REMEMBER we want you to want us as much as we want you...PERIOD!

2. TAKE IT ALL OFF - Listen, if we're having sex with you, we like your body... ALL of it, so leaving your shirt on because you think your breasts are too small is just stupid, and you're not fooling us... it's not as though we think, "Well, I can't see that part of her so it must be FANTASTIC!" Get naked!

3. LINGERIE IS NOT FOR US - Asking us what kind of underwear we'd like to see you in is like asking a shark what kind of seasoning he'd like on his next kill... The fancy underwear you buy is for you to feel sexy, or for your girlfriends to tell you you look sexy in. Two things you should know about us - (1) we're not looking at THE LINGERIE in the Victoria's Secret catalog, and (2) if we think you're hot, we will HONESTLY think so NO MATTER WHAT YOU'RE WEARING (especially if it's not much).

4. MAKE SOME NOISE - We understand you being shy when we first meet you. We understand you being shy when you meet our friends for the first time. Hell, we even understand you being shy when we're out in public. But, please, when it's nakey-nakey time, a little feedback is nice. I mean, you don't have to get into the full on nasty talk (but it's ok if you do) but a little moaning, or geez, even a little heavy breathing is nice encouragement. If all we wanted was peace and quiet, we would already be SLEEPING.

5. NIPPLES ARE THERE FOR SHOW ONLY - Okay, we understand how you can be confused about nipples... Yours are beautiful, unique and fun. But please understand, ours are simply decorations. No matter WHAT you've read in magazines, or heard from your friends. It does literally NOTHING for us for you to touch, lick, caress, etc. them... and if I EVER find the person that investing you all in the idea that BITING them is ok, I will drag them out into the street and kill them with a shovel.

6. HAIR PULLING - Another one-way street. Listen, we get that there are certain "positions" and situations where you ladies (especially with the long hair) like this - and most of us are happy to oblige... but please understand, our hair is MUCH closer to the roots, and it HURTS when you do it to us... additionally, while we like it when you take charge from time to time, we DO NOT LIKE being on the receiving end of the whole domination-submission thing. Plus, if we ever do go bald, we'll likely blame it on you.

7. DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL - Listen, we know it's not cool to ask you if you've climaxed. We don't like asking. It has all the charm of tripping while carrying dinner to the table, and similar appeal. But please understand - there's NO FOOLPROOF WAY TO TELL... and while we love you being a little mysterious and YES that's part of your appeal, would it hurt you to let us know? Aren't you glad that we're concerned? If you don't feel like you should have to tell us, then perhaps we feel like we shouldn't have to induce your "super-secret mystery orgasm".

8. THERE'S ONLY ONE WAY TO SCREW UP FELLATIO - Teeth. Enough said.

9. THAT BEING SAID... - When we were 18, we BELIEVED there was no such thing as a bad blow job. Mostly because we were so happy to be getting one, and it barely took a dirty movie and a stiff breeze to get us off, so we didn't really care. But things change, and yes you can be bad at it. If we're not barely holding on to keep from "finishing"... you're not doing a good job, period. We're not like you, we don't need a warm up and some secret technique that is unique to each one of us - just ask the one of your friends who you KNOW knows what she's doing... or one of your "fabulous" gay guy friends... they know, it's not THAT BIG of a secret, and it's not rocket science.

10. THE ONLY THING I'LL SHAVE FOR YOU - is my face. And yes, I want you to shave yours. Yes, I know it's a double standard, but I also pay for dinner and carry all the heavy shit from your car. Yours is built for shaving - it's flat. Ever tried shaving the outside of two coconuts in a Safeway bag? It's a bad plan, and you're damn sure gonna cut that bag - no thanks. We trim, you shave. It's kind of like: we sweat, you glisten. If you want to see completely hairless male genitals, your options are: rent a porno, date a porn star, or a 13-year old... the only one we'll stick around for is the first one.

11. PLINK, OW! - There is nothing, repeat NOTHING cute about plucking the one or two random hairs that may occur on our backs or shoulders, ESPECIALLY after sex. Is it not enough that we only have one or two? Is it too much to ask that you simply NOTIFY us, and let us handle the removal? Please. Nothing is more certain to guarantee you WON'T be getting a "Round 2".

12. IF YOU WANT TO YANK ON A JOYSTICK - Buy an old Atari, and leave us ALONE. That's about as much fun for for us as "fisting" is for you. It's sensitive, that's why it HURTS SO MUCH to get kicked there. If we want it rough - rest assured, we'll say something. If you sense a look of pain on our faces - no matter WHAT we say, go with your feeling - it's hurting, so STOP!

13. WE HAVE ONE EROGENOUS ZONE - It's not: our backs, legs, arms, chest, neck, ears, and it's most definitely not anywhere near the ol' poop chute. Want to know what we're thinking when you are touching those areas on us? "Oh, I hope she gets to my dick soon!" Ok?

14. COSMO IS WRONG - The "100 Sexy Surprises to Drive Your Man Wild" article has at least 83 things that will make us NEVER WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU AGAIN. Here's a good litmus test: If you think it's something that we'll think is weird, crazy or deviant, DON'T DO IT. I'm not sure where they find the men they interview for these articles - perhaps in the offices of a magazine written for women - do you really think these are the men that should be advising your sex life? Want some advice from a magazine? Read PENTHOUSE LETTERS - YES, we know they're completely contrived - but at least they won't get you kicked out of bed.

15. TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX WHILE IN MY BED - Is just as off-limits for you as it is for us. Yes, we know you're just talking about his cool job, talking to him about his latest vacation to Spain, or some restaurant he owns, but unless you want us to mention how thin OUR ex was, or how fantastic her breasts were, steer clear. This is supposed to be OUR moment.

16. DRAPING YOUR LEG OVER US AFTERWARDS - and laying your head on our chest is perhaps one of the greatest feelings you can give us. Laying COMPLETELY ON TOP OF US AFTERWARDS is not. It doesn't matter HOW little you are, it's not comfy - and NO it doesn't mean you're fat. It makes it hard to breathe - we want to relax, too. GET OFF!

17. YOUR HAIR ITCHES - We love that it smells like flowers, we love that it's soft and pretty and we love to have it all over the place ... DURING sex... Afterwards, it itches, so do that flip and tuck thing that you do - and keep it away from us.

18. STAY IN THE MOOD - There are VERY few ways to not at least cause SOME sort of break in the action when it's time to install the prophylactic, and it usually was VERY, VERY hot right before we do. We are being responsible and respectful, so PLEASE don't take the opportunity to coax yourself out of the mood - not even SLIGHTLY. There is nothing worse than FEELING BAD for putting a condom on - they're not the most comfortable thing - and YES it feels different than without. So do your best to be just as encouraging when we're finally "dressed for battle."

19. HEAD IS A QUID-PRO-QUO SITUATION - and YES, that goes for both. You want head? You give head. Fair enough. But beyond that - Please know that no matter HOW MUCH we may love you, want you, etc. If you have ANY grooming issues, AT ALL, we're not goin' down there. And we know you feel the same way so it's ONLY FAIR. It's a big commitment for us, and a tough mission to take on, with a HIGH failure probability - if it looks like a beautiful flower, and smells like one too, it makes the whole thing a LOT better for us... and if it looks like a forest and smells like one, too? We'll tell EVERYONE.

20. WE FALL ASLEEP AFTERWARDS, GET OVER IT! - Okay, listen: there is absolutely no greater way for us to be sent off to dreamland than this - and it is a COMPLETELY NATURAL MALE RESPONSE to fall asleep after sex. Round 2 may happen, after we have a little 10 minute nap... Every moment you try and keep us awake? We like you a little less. If you have something to say, make it profound and keep it brief. The good stuff can be said in a few seconds. The story about "that biyatch at work" can't. Anything more than a few sentences, we're not listening to.

**GGTo Editor's Note: We're making a list of the mistakes men make in the bedroom so post a comment if you have any guy gripes you think we should include.

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Tue, 11 Oct 2011 17:29:56 -0400

Is it possible to have too much lubrication for sex? I am not talking about lube from a bottle I mean natural lubrication. When I have sex with my boyfriend, he sometimes falls out because of all the extra lube. What can I do?

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Wed, 28 Sep 2011 16:05:08 -0400

My boyfriend masturbates with panties that belong to another girl, not an ex or anything, just a girl whose belongings were accessible to him at one time, so he helped himself. They weren't even clean when he took them and as far as I can tell he hasn't washed them since he got them. This bothers me because I feel like he must be thinking of her while he is masturbating, and also, I don't think I want any part of him, after having been that close to that part of her, anywhere near me, you know? We have had many arguments over this, but they never get us anywhere. At one point he said if I gave him some of my panties he would trade them for the other girl's, so I let him pick out which ones he wanted, but he never gave me the one's he had, even after I asked him for them several times. Finally, after about 2 weeks, I took mine back since he didn't keep his end of the deal. I guess he couldn't give them up, and was only trying to trick me into adding to his collection. This really bothers me but he doesn't understand me at all and bringing it up only leads to arguments. Am I wrong that I am bothered by this? What should I do?

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Wed, 17 Aug 2011 17:16:07 -0400

All my life I have had the strength to say no to sex...But now that I have found someone who has been sexually active with his last three partners- its been hard for him to understand the word "No." Basically I put my hoochie with a do not enter sign. He respects me, and really cares about me- He just doesn't know how to back off and understand how to take things slow again.

I've spoken with him a few times about it, and he says he understands...but once we get heated in the passion...he tries again and it makes me uncomfortable. I believe in abstinence, and I want to hold onto my virginity til i am married...

A lot of you might suggest just don't put yourself in that type of situation. But my boyfriend is a trucker, and I only see him every other two months in a year...So when we come together...we want to kiss our faces off...

What can I do to make sure he gets the message and that I keep my virginity in tact?

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Tue, 12 Jul 2011 18:28:39 -0400

Ok. So. I'm from a family where mom gave me the complete and utter basics about sex and, no details, that was it. And that's all I wanted to know. I'm a very shy person and I don't ask questions about sexual things. But as I get older I'm getting more curious and I was wondering if someone could give me a website or some form of informational material to go to. Help?

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Wed, 22 Jun 2011 03:48:40 -0400

Why has my libido decreased? I am in a steady relationship with a boyfriend I love very much and could spend the rest of my life with, yet I have gone from having sex 5 times a week or more to barely ever wanting it at all. I force myself to have sex at least once a week otherwise he gets wound up and annoyed. As he has such a high sex drive this is really hard on him and I don't have any answers as to why this has happened...

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Wed, 25 May 2011 13:48:42 -0400

I don't know what to do. I recently had sex with my boyfriend for the first time and found that he has a small penis. I don't care, it's just I can't feel it. So the size is a problem because of that. I feel so inadequate because I can't feel it and that makes me feel horrible. I enjoy the intimacy of sex with him, I just can't orgasm during penetration with him because I can't feel it.

I have tried to look for articles over the web that might help but most just say that I should try to enjoy other things during sex such as the sexual techniques, but how can I do that when I can't reach orgasm with him sexually during penetration?

I don't want to tell him because I don't want it to come between us and define our relationship, I really care about him and I want us to be more then sexual. I just feel like theres something wrong with me...and because I can't feel him during penetration I'm scared he most likely can't feel me either.

Please help me, what should I do? :(

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Wed, 20 Apr 2011 15:03:26 -0400

Okay, I have been with my guy for about 4 years now and the sex is really amazing but I would like to try some different positions, just to add to our experience. :) But we are the same height he might be an inch taller than me on a good day. lol I am not getting bored I just want to change things up to see how he reacts... Any suggestions?

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