Signs He Likes You... But How Much?

Sat, 04 Feb 2012 14:38:50 -0500

If you are dating a new guy and you ask is he into me, it's what we all do. We have all heard the phrase he is just not that into you and that is not fun. If you are liking him, you of course hope that he is into you. I am going to tell you some sure signs that he is into you. If you have a guy doing the following things, chances are good, he is into you.

- He calls when he says he will. This means he doesn't call hours later or the next day with an excuse. 

- He takes you places, meaning it's not your place or his. If it's always your place or his, you might be in a friends with benefits relationship. 

- He asks about your life and wants to know how you day is

 - He takes you out and is willing to pick you up, you don't have to drive to see him always

- He offers to help you with things, change a light bulb, look at your tires, add a quart of oil 

- He compliments you and seems proud of you

- He wants you to meet his friends and family 

- He wants to meet your friends and family 

- He sticks around after sex 

- He texts you at random, just to say hi.

 - He picks on you and teases you. Think about grade school boys pulling your pigtails in the sandbox.

 - He will stop by even if it only means seeing you for a few minutes. 

- He spends time with you on the weekends, not just weekdays 

- He doesn't call you for booty calls, he respects you enough not to ring your phone in the middle of the night

 - Your dates don't revolve around sex, he is fine with just snuggling

If your guy is doing most of the above things, that's a sign he is into you. If he isn't you may just be an option in his book. If he isn't making you a priority in his life, then you may not be his idea of girlfriend material. 

Guys have different types of girls in their lives.

Booty call girl. The girl who they know will always be around to hang out and/or have sex without him having to do any work but send a simple text that says, "hey what are you doing?" "want to hang out?" or "come over". This is the good-time girl and this girl will never be anything more than that.

Friend with Benefits. This is the friend that they have sex with that will never make it to girlfriend status, well because she settled for less and didn't demand more. Friends with benefits is a lost cause and rarely progress to more than heartache.

Filler Girl. A girl they do like, but don't see themselves in a relationship with. They like her but something about her does not inspire him to move her to girlfriend role. She is only filling a position and giving him something to do until he finds someone more interesting. 

Girlfriend. This is the one he adores and can't wait to see. This is the one you want to be. This girl has done something or there is just something about her that inspires him to take her off the market and claim her as his own. If he is into you, chances are good, he has made you his girlfriend. 

So which girl are you? You definitely don't want to be the booty call girl. But maybe he's shown some signs he's into you; however, if you can't tell for sure just remember you can't force a guy to like you.

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Tue, 31 Jan 2012 09:53:35 -0500

Okay, this a question about how to move on. I was with a guy for only a little over 3 months, but before that we were close friends. I fell for him harder than anybody I've ever fell for. The biggest problem is that we were too much a like, both really stubborn and struggled to deal with our emotions, so we ended up arguing a lot. So he broke up with me before we had the chance to really figure out exactly why it all went crazy, but because we didn't want to throw away our friendship, we stayed friends. It's been almost 2 months and in the last two weeks I've been increasingly more upset over our break up. When we broke up, I was upset, but not all that much. I hardly cried, I didn't get angry and we were getting along quite happily.

Then suddenly, the whole thing seemed to hit me last weekend and I'm not sure how to deal with it. I've always been the kind of person that moves on super quickly, but this time I can't. I keep thinking about things we should be doing together, how much I miss him and every time I see him , I spend the rest of the day thinking about him non-stop. How on Earth can I move on?

Cutting him out of my life is not an option, because not only do we rely on each other's friendship...we also work together. I just need some advice, how do you move on from what I believe to be the love of my life?

7 Reasons Men Play Mind-Games

Mon, 30 Jan 2012 17:01:44 -0500

Have you ever dated a man who's a master at mind-games? You know the whole -- he's hot/he's cold, it's on/it's off, etc... If you said yes then girlfriend... we feel your pain. Ugh! It's horrible, isn't it? The headspins of confusion and frustration causing some of us to feel EVEN more emotional than a bad week of PMS. We're not dumb or desperate yet figuring out why he's playing gmaes can be even more confusing. Maybe he's a total jerk but more than likely it's because of one of the reasons below...

1. They feel emotionally insecure
Some men play games with women because they are emotionally insecure. He is not sure about how he really feels and hence feels that it is better that he plays games rather than expose his emotional insecurity to the woman he is with.

2. They are not ready to show their vulnerable side yet
When a guy is not sure where his relationship is heading and is confused about revealing his real self he begins to play games with the woman he is with. He wants to see how well she actually understands him and once he is sure of the way she will react will he be able to reveal his vulnerable side and stop the games.

3. They try to build intrigue
By playing mind games men also try to build intrigue. In the same way that women use the hard to get strategy, men use the game ploy. By confusing the woman they get her thinking about them to a point she where gets desperate to unravel him.

4. This helps in building interest
Mind games also makes a man interesting. A lot of women don't take interest in men who they can understand easily. A man who plays mind games with her begins to appear more intelligent than the others and thus holds her interest longer.

5. They just like to tease their woman
A lot of men play games with women because they just like to tease the woman they are with. They will blow hot and cold and totally confuse a woman about how they feel about her.

6. They want to project a macho impression
A lot of men want to project a macho alpha male impression. They do so by playing games with women. The more mind games they play, the more the women seem to want him. When a man is completely upfront with a woman she sometimes tends to get turned off. But an alpha male never gets turned down and by playing these mind games holds his woman's interest.

7. He just wants to see how far he can take these games
Some men play mind games just for the fun of it. They like to see the woman's reaction and see how far they can get away with by playing these games. These men generally are quite childish and do it all for a laugh.

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Mon, 30 Jan 2012 14:41:01 -0500

I've had the same two best friends since I was 11. We are now in our third year of college (we all go to the same school) and I couldn't feel further apart from them. When we were younger, it was rare that a weekend passed that we didn't spend together. Now they both have boyfriends. And as soon as they started dating our time together slowly decreased. Now, the only time I see them is when they throw crazy parties, which I hate going to. I don't know if I should talk to them or just give up on ever hearing from them again. I wouldn't even know how to bring it up. Please help.

Dating Drama: His Future Talk Freaks Me Out

Mon, 30 Jan 2012 14:01:02 -0500

It's kind of like this. I've heard of the ''guy pull back.''. The "don't say THIS to a guy you are seeing" and many other things like this because you "don't wanna scare him away." Well, I've got a little... backwards, so to say, relationship. I've been seeing this guy for... almost 2 months now. He's great, amazing, treats me like a woman and isn't shy to show the world we are together. But the problem is, he talks about marriage, and kids, and what he wants in life and how he can't wait to see where this relationship goes.
Now, from what I hear, most women would be thrilled to hear a guy talking about this. I'm NOT. It terrifies me. I get scared and just want to run the other direction. I've NEVER thought about getting married, having kids, anything like that. I've never thought about getting married, settling down, having kids. That kind of thing.

Now, I'm having a "girl pull-back'' kind of thing, where he will call me and I won't answer because I don't want to talk since I feel like we already talked too much. Out of the month and a bit we've been dating, we've only seen each other for about.... 9 days. I miss him a lot, but since he's started talking about marriage and kids, I've kind of been pulling back. I've told hm flat out, I don't know if I ever want to get married or have kids. It's never crossed my mind, and probably never will...

I guess I'm confused. I don't know what's going on anymore. We talk every day on the phone, we text whenever we can, but sometimes, when he calls. I don't want to talk, so I'll let it go to voicemail.

Help me, what's going on? What should I do... is this a bad sign?

Long Distance Relationship Tips

Tue, 24 Jan 2012 14:43:35 -0500

LDR, just like any relationship it's always a work in progress. Except the fact that your SO is unavailable to you physically either 50% of the time or more, because you either live in different states, across the oceans from each other or work/school keeps them busy. But the main striving point(s) of an LDR is love and honesty, always. I can't say I don't have my breaking points every now and then and bawl my eyes out until their swollen because I miss my SO, or when I have those hideous green monster moments when he goes to hang with his friends and I'm not there. Or the biggest relationship "no no", when you suspect him of maybe cheating on you.

It's never easy, but it's always worth it if you have trust and love fully invested in the relationship. I've been with my SO for five years now, 3 years we lived together until the economy went really bad and we had to go back to living with our parents, mine here in the mainland, and his in Hawaii. So we've endured 2 years apart, with visits once a year to see each other, we talk everyday on the phone, text, skype if the internet connection isn't horrible on both our sides. We send gifts and cards to each other as well to let each other know we are thinking of them regardless of our time apart for the time being. LDRs aren't for the faint heart and extremely lonely, so don't jump into one if you THINK you can handle one.

My tips for keeping an LDR happy and healthy:

1. Trust your SO: if they haven't cheated in their past relationships or cheated on you in your dating history. Don't start to falter and let the suspicions eat at you, trust them unless they give you something to start not trusting them.

2. Patience: This is a hard one considering some LDRs have difficult time differences to get the hang of, waiting for a phone call or text message is difficult especially if you want to know if they are okay or you just want to hear their voice. Don't go blowing up their phone and acting crazy, (I'll admit it I've blown up his phone twice) they might of stepped out of the room to take a shower, cook something to eat, or they are working late. Just call them once or twice, if they don't pick up either leave a message or just text them and let it be until they get back to you.

3. Keep yourself busy: There will be times that you and your SO will be busy with work or school, so don't just hang by your phone or computer eagerly awaiting them. Go out with friends, see a movie, read, write, blog, exercise, etc...

4. Communicate: A couple I've been friends with for awhile, both of them are extremely busy with school and work. They live 3 hours away from each other, and they only get to see each other once a month. The one thing that keeps them together, is communication, with texts, phone calls, letters, or emails. One thing they told me they always do if they had a busy day and couldn't talk to their SO, is that they call each other at the end of the night to tell them "I love you, I miss you and I'll talk to you tomorrow."

5. Love investment: Okay in a LDR you know later on after you're maybe done with school or finished up working at a certain area and can transfer, one of you will be moving closer towards the other. In all LDRs you and your SO make decisions together as to if who moves to whom, their is always a sacrifice regardless, that's why love has to be invest deeply into your foundation. You might have to move far away from your comfort zone or your SO will have to, or you both move to a place where you both can see each other and still commute to places you want to be around.

My advice isn't for everyone because someone will always disagree, but any other LDRs out there have other advice to throw out for us long distance runners?

Your question

Mon, 23 Jan 2012 16:14:47 -0500

I was dating a guy for almost 2 years and we broke up but we are still talking and want to be together again. I want to be officially dating him but he "doesn't want to date me but wants to be with me and only me". In your opinion what is the difference between dating someone and being with someone exclusively?

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Wed, 18 Jan 2012 18:34:46 -0500

I have one of the most common questions a girl would ever ask . I met a guy at a friend's party (friend's friend) and we kind of hooked up. When I left, we did not exchange numbers or make plans to catch up again. But now I feel I would like to know him better..should I make the first move? Or is that never a good idea?

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Tue, 17 Jan 2012 19:59:27 -0500

My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for about a year and a half. He's a freshman in college and I am a senior in high school. His college is also only 40 minutes from where I live so it isn't far. We have recently gotten back together but things have been hectic because he just got back to school for spring semester and I have been applying to colleges and what not. My question is, how do I make my boyfriend "want me" more? Like pay attention, want me to visit, stuff like that. I try to give him his space, because college is about having freedom. But I also don't want to seem like nag.

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Mon, 16 Jan 2012 14:56:39 -0500

I don't know how or what I feel anymore. I'll develop an attraction for someone & maybe even a bit of affection, but it always fades away so abruptly. I just wake up one morning, feeling completely different towards a person that I was once greatly attracted to. For the longest time, there has been this person that I have the most severe attraction towards & affection for, but I don't know where we stand right now. I've tried to let go of them so I can just be, but I've failed every time. Should I tell this person the impact that they have on me & try to work things out, or should I try to leave them be again & live my life as though the feelings are nonexistent?

Signs He Likes You... But How Much?

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7 Reasons Men Play Mind-Games

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Dating Drama: His *Future Talk* Freaks Me Out

Long Distance Relationship Tips

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Dating Drama: His Future Talk Freaks Me Out