You're Not Ready To Lose Weight

Fri, 23 Dec 2011 09:30:50 -0500

So I have been meaning to write this post for a while now, but I decided not to until I could honestly say that I no longer do the things I am about to list out within this post. I have come across many people during my weight loss journey that claim they want to lose weight. Keyword: CLAIM. They say that they’re ready to make this lifestyle change, that they’re committed, that they need to. But do all of them mean what they say? Most of the time no, they don’t.

Now I’m not knocking this, not one bit… that used to be me and sometimes still is me, but the fact of the matter is you are not ready to lose weight until you commit yourself and jump in knees deep. I’m not talking about committing yourself for 3 days out of the week and then taking a break. I’m talking about 24/7 commitment. Twitching because you haven’t had junk food in 2 weeks commitment. At the gym staring at your old fat picture commitment. Yes that whole-hearted commitment. Until you are committed you will remain fat, unhealthy, unfit or [ enter opposite of goal here ].

So here is a list of four things that I have noticed about people that start and do not finish their weight-loss journey.

You’re Not Ready To Lose Weight:

If you don’t do the research.
The first thing I did when I decided I wanted to lose weight was research how I could go about it. I went on many sites such asWebMD, SparkPeople, and Daily Burn. I calculated my food intake and how much I should be burning based on my goal, my activity level, and my body. We all know it’s fairly simple [eat less + burn more] but that doesn’t mean anything flys. Look into diets, meal/recipe plans and exercise routines. ASK OTHER PEOPLE QUESTIONS. Watch youtube videos of peoples journeys, join communities or read and maybe create a blog! You can’t start this journey without knowing what you’re getting yourself into and creating a plan for yourself.

If you workout and then eat a Big Mac.
Are you shitting me? Chubbykins listen here, and listen closely. EAT LESS + EXERCISE MORE = MAGIC/HOT BOD/SEXY BEAST! If you plan on eating badly and exercising you will see no results, and if you’re weight training and eating badly, you’re just gonna get bulky and weigh more on the scale. Eww. It’s a commitment folks, you’re signing the dotted line, giving up your soul! Okay not really, but you get my point. If you plan on making a commitment to your weight loss journey you NEED to give up the junk! Now don’t go cold turkey… you’ll fail, ease yourself into healthier options of your favorite food, cut down the portions some, reason with yourself. But do not expect to see results if you’re going to continue to stuff you cheeks with bad food.

If you honestly believe you can vigorously exercise and read/text at the same time
Okay cool… biking and walking you may be able to, elliptical and stair-master it’s hard but doable. Running? Get the fuck out. I don’t care what ANYONE has to say about this, it’s fact. Unless you’re slow motion running for… oh I don’t know… 4 hours you are not doing shit on that treadmill but making some chubbykin (me in particular) annoyed that you are hogging the machine’s time. Same goes for texting. Your sweaty fingers should be slipping all over your touch screen, missing the buttons on your blackberry, frustrating you to the point where you say “EFF THIS” and put your bloody phone down. Yes, trying to distract yourself from the pain and burn developing furiously in your nowhere near buns of steal is completely understandable but when it hinders your workout…stop. Just.stop.it. You came to the gym to get in a workout, so do that. If you can multitask while doing so, good for you, but chances are if you just started your weight loss journey, you can’t. Focus, get in the zone, and sweat it out.

If you do not have a goal
Now many of us have goal weights, but I’m talking deeper than that. You need a goal that means something to you deep down within you. You didn’t wake up and look at the scale and say “Hey, maybe I wanna be 20lbs lighter.” You maybe thought, “Oh my God, this weight is unhealthy,” or “Maybe this high number on the scale and my wide ass is what’s making me feel insecure.” You need tangible and untangible goals. Trust me… they work hand in hand with each other to motivate you to keep going. That’s why I wrote my “Why I Want to Lose Weight Post” because it’s not just about the low number on the scale, it’s about so much more.

I feel like I could spend a post or two on each of these points. So much more goes into them than the high level explanations I have given. But I’ll stop here for now, until I can fully conquer these four “No-No’s”.

Reader Question: What are some other things you have noticed about people who are just not ready to commit to their journeys? Which one of the four points listed did you or do you still struggle with? Mine is my goals and motivation.

Your question

Mon, 19 Dec 2011 12:25:17 -0500

Does anyone on here meditate? If so, what do you do and how because I would like to start doing it :)

Your question

Mon, 17 Oct 2011 15:31:36 -0400

Exactly a year ago I was on the receiving end of what I suppose would be termed attempted rape. I was at a party in my home and drank excessively, (I'd just broken up with the guy I'd been seeing) passed out on the couch, and woke many hours later to an unknown guy trying to get....intimate.... I had no idea at that point who he was, and wasn't quite comprehending what he was doing. I knew I wanted to get up and leave, go to my own bed, but I just couldn't make it happen. Eventually I twigged exactly what he was doing, and managed to get out of there, thankfully avoiding the physical act, but it has affected me far more than I ever thought it would have. maybe more than it should have. after all, I came out unscathed.

So really, my question is, how do people put things behind them? I'm so afraid the lose control now, of anything. I inexplicably flip out with my boyfriend at times when we're intimate. I feel like that night was my fault somehow, that I gave him the impression that I was interested somehow.
My attitude to sex has changed hugely, I feel now like I cant say no, that my boyfriend will be upset with me, or he'll take it anyway. I guess mentally I decided that if I always offer sex, at least it cant be taken from me, which is probably not a great attitude....
Does anyone have any pointers? I'd really appreciate them.....

Your question

Sun, 16 Oct 2011 18:12:27 -0400

Ok, so I'm a pretty quiet girl, not shy, quiet, I don't mind talking to people. I'm not horribly ugly, I mean I have my flaws, but I'm not really pretty either. I'm nice to people, and a lot of people tell me I'm funny. Just to put this out there, I'm not like... skanky or sleezy, but I'm not all 'virgin mary' either, I'm like... Plain Jane type. I'm not... fat either. I'm just NORMAL. I've only had ONE boyfriend in my entire life, and I'm pretty sure he only asked me out due to guilt ( I had a crush on him for two years, then he learned I was moving, and suddenly asked me out) and I'm a junior in high school. I'd like to know what I have to do to get a boyfriend? I don't want one because it's cool to have one, I want one because I want to have a guy to talk to, a best friend without all the drama of a girl, that I know will stick by my side, and have fun with. What do I have to do?

Your question

Mon, 10 Oct 2011 18:28:47 -0400

Hi. I tend to be really touchy. Cry at stupid things. It's getting to the point it causing me issues not only with men but in general. Ive even started taking Zoloft which has helped some. I want to not be so sensitive. What do I do!? HELP!!!

Your question

Fri, 16 Sep 2011 16:26:42 -0400

Hey girls! My question is concerning getting birth control...I'm going off to college and I want to get birth control. It's really just to help my period, I'm not sexually active...but I do want to be prepared for that, in case it happens. I know my mom will jump to conclusions if I ask for it, so I've thought about doing it secretly from the school's health center. They put it under "medication" on the insurance, but I'd have to tell my parents what sort of medication I'm receiving (they'll ask). Any ideas for a pretend medication? Or do you think it'd be better just to tell them that I want it?

Your question

Wed, 17 Aug 2011 15:03:55 -0400

Alright, I'll just get to the point...when I get my period I am really cranky and moody. It's been really bad for my relationship. My boyfriend and I, we always end up fighting, I just pick fights and he's really patient with me, even though I become this complete b*tch, he always comes back and apologizes as soon as we're done fighting. Recently though I feel like I might be losing him, we had a really bad fight and he says he's busy but I feel like he's avoiding me and I get it, there's only so much patience someone can have. I don't want to lose him, he's great with me, but I don't know if I can control my moods. What should I do? Any ideas? Oh and we're in a long distance relationship, its been about a year for us.

Your question

Wed, 10 Aug 2011 16:13:03 -0400

I really want to lose some weight, but every time I come round to doing it, I have NO motivation...
I'm obviously motivated by having a better body and being healthier but I just really cannot be bothered. It gets me feeling low sometimes and makes me angry at myself. Can anyone give me some suggestions of how to self-motivate myself?

Your question

Tue, 19 Jul 2011 12:41:35 -0400

My period is two weeks late, but I'm not sexually active, what might be the problem?

Your question

Wed, 13 Jul 2011 18:10:38 -0400

I have a serious problem with my sweating. I sweat a lot even after I put roll-on deodorants, talcum powder, etc...how can I resolve my problem? Please suggest something.