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Tue, 12 Jul 2011 15:13:46 -0400

I went to college last year with my best friend. We met in 8th grade and have been together since then. She's the only person who really liked me and understood me. First semester was great! We befriended a few people from my orientation group and we hung out all the time. Second semester, one of them dropped out and the other got a girlfriend. So she and I didn't see them often, then I got a boyfriend. Even though everyone else likes him, she still thinks he's rude and obnoxious. He's never done anything but be polite to her and so he and I both don't understand why she hates him so much. I try to talk to her about it but she says there's nothing wrong. Since then she's been pulling away it feels like. She won't invite me to parties she would normally ask me to help with. She won't talk to me or even look at me if I'm sitting with him.
I love her, but I don't know if this is worth fighting over. We'll be moving in together again this next school year, but I don't know how to handle this. Should I just move on from her? Should I fight to get our friendship back?

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Mon, 04 Apr 2011 12:14:34 -0400

I'm a freshman in college and I got really close to 3 girls during this last semester. Two of them are roommates and the other is a sophomore who I met first. The sophomore (let's call her A) and I are very close and I consider her to be my best friend. The roommates (let's call them B and C) are freshman who I met later on in the first semester and we bonded quickly due to their energy and love for partying. I've always been closer with B because she is so similar to me but she's inseparable from C. C can be cranky, unpredictable and selfish yet can be nice another minute. When I first met her I knew she would be "bipolar" like this and I kinda kept my distance. Recently, C has become annoyed with me because I guess I'm being too clingy and she likes her space. The only reason I see her is because I'm with B so much because we go to the gym together and get meals and C comes too. She's looking at it that I'm the one tagging along and sometimes I am the one added onto their plans. But she can't ignore me and be rude the way she has. What should I do? I always get in this problem where the girls I focus my time and efforts on seem to get annoyed with me being around and I try really hard not to come on too strong or be clingy! I'm very social, I have a lot of friends but I like to spend time with those that I get along with the best and then they end up turning on me or just getting cranky and I don't know what to do! Now I'm left alone in my single scrambling for what to do next. HELP!

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Thu, 31 Mar 2011 14:27:21 -0400

Over the past three months, me and a few of my roommates have been frustrated with our other roommate. She likes the apartment SUPER cold, and because of that, our utility bill is higher than my parents bill. She won't budge on the temperature and won't compromise either. Also, she and the girl who shares a room with her refuse to help keep the apartment clean. We tried writing up a job chart, but they took their names off. The bathroom is disgusting--you can't even see the countertop anymore. What should I do??

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Sat, 26 Mar 2011 20:27:56 -0400

What are some good dating websites for college girls? I'm a little nervous to try online dating, but I've been single for two years so I thought I'd give it a try! I just want to be sure to be safe. Any suggestions?

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Tue, 20 Jul 2010 14:45:12 -0400

So my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost two years now. We both graduated from our high school and now we are on our way to two different colleges that are separated by several states. Since I was his first girlfriend, I wanted him to be free and experience life to the fullest before he ever got serious with me. But I love him too much and I don't even know if I want to let him go anymore.

He loves me and he's assured me that if we were to stay together, he'd keep his hands to himself. However, I dont want him to miss out on fun college stuff because he didn't want to put himself in a situation where he could possibly cheat on me. I don't know whether to try and work it out or let him be free and maybe get back together in the future. I really don't know what to do. Help?

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Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:56:00 -0500

I'm a freshman in college and transferring next year to a bigger school. My current school doesn't have a Greek system but this new one will. I definitely want to rush to be in a sorority but I'm just curious how do you know what sorority is right for you?

Making Friends At College!

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:26:56 -0500

Ok, so it’s that time of year, quite a few of us will have started the next year up in school or started college in an entirely different place, the challenges this poses are great, and they can really make you nervous about going into classes, which really isn’t good considering you are going to spend the next two, or maybe even more, years of your life there.

So on your first day you get the butterflies in your stomach, thoughts wiz around your mind like, “what if I don’t make friends?”, or “what if I can’t even find my way around this place?”. There’s that ominous look about your new college on the first day, you see it more as a place full of unknown than a great new future, you view the lessons as dreaded hours in which you will spend time with people who are unknown to you, the age old questions go through your head “will they like me?”, “am I their type?” and “what if I don’t fit in?”.

Well most of us our now a month into the “torture” and were starting to realise college isn’t that bad at all!! We might have got a few dreaded illness’ from being run into the ground with lack of sleep and excessive work load, we may have done a few things we regret due to drunkenness. But overall were starting to think “hey college isn’t such a bad place!”. You may have made a few new friends who you spend time discussing the issues brought with college, which are normally, boys, booze, clothes, money (or lack of it) and your never ending supply of cheap boil in 2 minute noodles. You have started you college experience and your loving it.

For some though, one month in college is still looking bleak, they haven’t made all that many friends, they haven’t had the amazing nights out and their experience has still not begun, or not the good part of it anyway. Well for these people I have rounded up some advice! I asked people what they saw in the people they made friends with, why they were drawn to them and not others, to which I got a mix of answers but a few points stood out in amongst the rest. Firstly they chose people who had a look of confidence about them, people who looked able to hold a good conversation. Secondly, people who were like them but different, a confusing statement I know! They said that when they look for new people to associate with they were looking for people who had signs of being interested in the same thing, making it easier for them to start a conversation, but they weren’t looking for exact clones of themselves. Thirdly, they were looking for someone happy, a smile on their face and like they had no cares in the world... this can be difficult considering we all have difficulties living in the world we do, but just pretend! Stick on that smile throw your shoulders back, walk proud and people will be drawn to you! Let people know your easy to talk to and give them a starting point, maybe wear a badge with a band on it, so that if a person approaches you they can start a conversation to do with the band. Even if you lack confidence the best way to attract people is to start a conversation and show them you’re a good person who they can chat to easily. Even if you feel this is impossible, as I once did the key is positive thinking. You have to say to yourself, ”what’s the worst that could happen?” they could blank you, in which case, “who cares?” should be your next thought, they obviously aren’t right for you. If you think of a simple conversation starter, choose a person who looks like your kind of person and go over and just say hi, and then use your conversation starter, chances are they’ll chat back! Don’t be afraid to jump in feet first, if they are chatting back and you feel comfortable with them, ask them if they want to go out for a drink, them and their friends, and if they say yes, then your sorted! If they say no, don’t worry, there’s plenty more people out there!

The key to making friends in the college environment is confidence, whether it’s real or not, positive thoughts about yourself and others, and a good starting point. Negative thoughts can only lead to negative results.

For those people who are already loving their college experience and have their friends sorted, maybe you could just keep your eye out and be aware that not everyone has had as much luck as you. You could make someone’s college life so much better by just saying hi and inviting them out. It’s not a huge thing to do and you could get a truly amazing friend out of it, because it’s normally the quite ones that surprise you, in a good way!

College is one of the best times a person can have, you have the opportunity to make friends, gain independence, learn skills needed for life, enjoy association with some of the wackiest people you’ll ever meet all day and way into the night and it’ll be something you look back on fondly all your life. Even if college isn’t looking all that great now, give it time and think positive, it’ll come together and you won’t regret your decision to go.

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Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:26:25 -0400

I am a freshman in college. I've been here for about a month. I like my classes, love the campus....only one problem.....I haven't made any friends. I don't know why, I've been trying. Smiling a lot, sitting next to people and introducing myself, inviting girls on my floor to go get lunch together...people aren't really giving me the time of day or if they do, I never hear or see them again. Its beginning to take away from my college experience, and I'm getting really homesick :( What can I do to make friends and how do I keep the friendship going? Specific ideas would be much appreciated! Thank you all, I appreciate advice!

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Wed, 30 Sep 2009 19:12:42 -0400

How do I get my roommate away from her ex? Last year they dated and he was nothing but controlling, verbally abusive, and they would always fight and sometimes I would get in the middle. But now that we are back at school she acts like she is going to get back together with him but says she won't. I keep trying to take her out not without him around so maybe she will get some numbers and talk to nice guys but she won't. I am just trying to look out for my friend and myself so I don't have to put up with his crap this year but obviously she doesn't see it that way she just sees it as they are being friends. I need some good advice.

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Thu, 24 Sep 2009 18:49:57 -0400

I go to an all-women's college, so my dating life is very limited. I don't drink and am not really a party girl. Instead, I perfer to get all my work done, and with no car, I really can't go anywhere but downtown. My parents really don't approve of online dating and I was raised very conservatively, so how can I meet guys?