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Mon, 30 Jan 2012 14:41:01 -0500

I've had the same two best friends since I was 11. We are now in our third year of college (we all go to the same school) and I couldn't feel further apart from them. When we were younger, it was rare that a weekend passed that we didn't spend together. Now they both have boyfriends. And as soon as they started dating our time together slowly decreased. Now, the only time I see them is when they throw crazy parties, which I hate going to. I don't know if I should talk to them or just give up on ever hearing from them again. I wouldn't even know how to bring it up. Please help.

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Tue, 01 Nov 2011 16:22:17 -0400

My husband and I got married June 2009. Right after we got married we moved across the country and less than six months later we came back home. We moved again a year later and again a year after that. We're loving where we are now and have FINALLY unpacked all of our boxes.
Today as we were going through them we found something quite unexpected: the thank you notes to our guests who came to our wedding!!!
With all of the moving around we have done this is the first time we've unpacked all of our belongings in over two years. We both feel horrible that they weren't sent out, and we can't agree on what to do. I want to send them out with an additional apology about the lateness but my husband feels that we should just let it be. I have a problem with this because I don't want people thinking we're ungrateful.

What should we do. What would you do? I'm so confused.

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Thu, 13 Oct 2011 17:19:06 -0400

So I just need opinions. Almost 2 and a half months ago I got married. My now husband and I were engaged for a year before we got married. So naturally I picked my best friend to be my maid of honor. At first she was really excited about it and we both were naturally, but it seemed the closer and closer that we got to the wedding date the more distant she and I became. I would call or text her and she wouldn't respond and it went on for days. It didn't always deal with wedding stuff it was just in general, I could have called or texted her to see how her day was and she wouldn't respond. It really upset me b/c I just didn't understand what was going on. So I talked to my husband and a few close friends that know both her and I and i asked their opinions about what to do and they told me to just talk to her.

So i tried talking to her to figure out what was going on and the conversation just didn't go well and it strained our friendship even more. I tried explaining to her that she was supposed to be my maid of honor and my best friend and i needed her. I completely understand that people have lives but i was doing all the planning by myself. I told her if she didn't want to do it or felt like it was to much pressure to let me know and i would get someone else to do it and she told me that she wanted to. I thought things were fine after that but the same problem persisted and even got worse. It got to the point that she wasn't showing up to the meetings or fittings, i was still doing all the planning by myself and i just got tired of it so i told her she could still be in the wedding but she was no longer the maid of honor. So I picked someone else to do it. Well at that point she just stopped talking to me all together, whenever I had wedding related things to tell her I would have to have my husband talk to her b/c she wouldn't talk to me about wedding stuff or anything. She stopped talking to all of our friends all together, except my husband.

After having this go on for many months I just told her that I couldn't deal with it anymore, we had a big fight, we haven't talked in like 3 or 4 months, she didn't show up to the wedding, she didn't pay for the rest of her bridesmaids dress. Not only am I upset but I'm hurt. So since she didn't pay for the rest of her dress I had to. We were already in a financial strain with paying for the wedding and reception and then on top of that I had to pay an extra $125 for her dress. So I now have the dress with nothing do to with it.

It upsets me b/c she told me she was having money trouble that's why she hadn't paid for the rest of her dress, but she had enough to buy a brand new iphone! WTF?!

My question is I want my money back but I don't know how to get it. What should I do or what could i do? Friends suggested selling it on craigslist or ebay or something, or just making her pay for it. But obviously if she was going to pay for it, she would have? Right?? At this point I don't want to deal with it or her anymore I just want it to be done and over, so I just don't know what to do.

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Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:13:09 -0400

I've been out of college since 2006 and out of a long-term relationship for two years. I've recently become unemployed and had to move back home with my parents. When I was in that relationship, my ex basically sucked the "social life" out of me so I didn't have too many friends, and now I'm having the hardest time making NEW friends or rekindling old friendships. I'll try to make plans with old girl friends, but many of them are now coupled up or married, have moved away, or just have their own thing going on. What can I do to make new friends as I'm nearing 30 while on a tight budget? I feel so pathetic! But I feel like I'm missing out on having a close knit group of girl friends :(

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Thu, 10 Mar 2011 22:58:18 -0500

I'm really worried about my best friend and I don't know what to do. She was supposed to meet me for lunch today and canceled at the last minute. That's really unlike her but she said she was sick. One of our good friends works with her and IMed me this afternoon asking if I wanted to grab a drink tomorrow night and that she was going to invite my best friend but she had called in sick to work. We're like sisters and have been friends for years so after work I picked up some soup and dropped by her apartment which is across the street from mine. She didn't answer but I have a spare key to her place and thought she was just asleep so let myself in. I walked in and her place was a disaster (she's a neat freak) which I thought was odd. I again just assumed she hadn't cleaned it because she was sick. I called her name but she didn't answer so just went to the kitchen to put the soup down but something came over me and I had this weird feeling something wasn't right. I went upstairs and found her sleeping. I'm so clumsy I bumped into the table by her bed and she woke up and when she turned around I saw that she had a black eye. She instantly covered her face up. I asked what happened and she said her boyfriend accidentally elbowed her in the face. But I saw her arms and they were covered in bruises too. I asked if she was sure that's what happened and she got really defensive and said yes I wouldn't lie to you. On her nightstand was a note from her boyfriend saying: "I'm really sorry about last night things got out of hand. See you Monday when I'm back from my trip. I love you" She saw me looking at it and said "Oh we got into a little spat last night. Nothing big" and then said " I really don't feel well. I think I have the flu and just need to sleep this off." she had the flu and that she wanted to go back to sleep. She's been with her boyfriend for just about a year and he's a guy we've all known for years. He's one of those great on paper kind of guys but I know he has a temper. I hadn't seen her for 2 weeks because I was traveling for work then she was but right before I left we had dinner and she had a bruise on her neck (she said it was a hickey) and scratches on her arm (she said from her mom's cat). Now I'm starting to wonder if he's abusing her. The signs point to yes but I don't want to accuse him if he's not. I know he's planning to propose to her in a few weeks too because I went with him to buy the ring and I am praying I'm overreacting and this isn't true. There's something in my gut telling me it is true and it would be heartbreaking on so many levels if it is. I don't want to overstep my boundaries as a best friend but it broke my heart to see her like that tonight. I'm just so worried and I don't know what to do. Please does anyone have any advice?

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Mon, 10 Jan 2011 16:46:39 -0500

Four days ago I got a call from my parents letting me know a relative was gravely ill. I couldn't come that night because I live very far away and it would have been dangerous to drive it in the middle of the night. The next morning I called my parents to see if I should go to the hospital. They said they were home and that I should go to the house first, and I did. I felt bad not going right to the hospital first, but I didn't want to go there alone.
I arrived at my parents house where I waited for them to get ready to accompany me to the hospital to see my relative. Unfortunately, about ten minutes before we left we got a call from the hospital saying she had passed away...
I feel so guilty that I wasn't there for her... even more so because I know that my family wasn't there... she was by herself in a cold hospital room with only nurses around her... strangers.
I've felt horrible since she passed away. I can't sleep. It's difficult to eat. To be blunt, I hate myself for not being there. I don't know what to do. I can't stop crying and I don't think I'll ever forgive myself.
I don't know what I'm expecting you girls to be able to say... I'm just at a loss and I don't know what to do...

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Tue, 04 Jan 2011 13:15:49 -0500

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Wed, 15 Dec 2010 14:25:06 -0500

Let me start with a quick update. I am someone who through out high school was outgoing, and had a good amount of friends. But I made a few mistakes with a boyfriend and now I'm out of HS and working 6 days a week. My question/advise is with trying to make new friends, and I am finding it rather hard. Like I said, I work 6 days a week so going out to the bar on weekends isn't really doable, people tell me that's a good way. I just think it's weird at this age, (22), to make friends. Most people by now have a strong group of friends and are no longer really looking. I don't even work with people my age. =( I've considered using like a friend finder/pen pal site, but they all cost money =( So does anyone else have some advice on this?

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Mon, 04 Oct 2010 20:25:42 -0400

My dad has found out that I am not a virgin anymore and he is devastated. He basically thinks that I am now an "easy" girl and he is convinced that I don't love my boyfriend. It is actually the total opposite, I am completely head over heels for my guy and it took me eight months to decide that he is the one I want to lose my virginity with.
Oh and on the same day he found out that I go to parties and drink (a minimum amount but still).
How can I convince my dad that I am still the girl I was before but that I am growing up? I am sixteen by the way. I realise that I have made mistakes with the parties but with the sex I am convinced and will remain convinced that I did the right thing.
Thanks if anyone can help me get back my relationship with my dad! xo

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Fri, 01 Oct 2010 02:06:13 -0400

I often wonder, why are we all so mean to one another? I mean girls as a gender in general, we're cruel. We talk behind one anothers backs, and start rumors. We betray one another and taunt one another. It's ridiculous, don't we have enough problems in our lives between guys, and school, and all the pressure to be pretty and perfect don't we have to deal with enough already? We should be comforting one another, we should be allies, we should stick together. Not let petty issues (that really in the long run don't matter) create problems between us.